People think it’s amazing, to write a book. To digital nomad around the world. To have a great body. To have spiritual wisdom, to be calm, to speak confidently. To start a human empowering business.

All the things I’ve become good at.

It’s funny though, because these are all the things I always wanted.

So what I did, was go and create them all.

How do we create anything we want? Let me tell you what I’ve learnt from my experiences.

1) Focus on Process vs Goal

Research, learn, understand the science/mechanisms of process vs goal. Process is what turns chocolate into chocolate. Or as my mum says after she makes amazing food — “eating is easy, but the cooking is hard work”.

2) Gain Experience Through Action

I had social anxiety for all of my life. Speaking on a stage (confidently) was a goal that seemed impossible, yet inside, I knew I had it in me.

I went to public speaking school, and the thing the coach said to me was “the only way to get good at public speaking, is to speak”. He’s right. The only way to travel, is to travel. The only way to build a fit body, is to do it. As my mum said, cooking is the work, the result is enjoyed for a moment only. It’s also one of the key lessons in Bhagvat Gita, focus on the work, not the prize.

3) Go beyond your limit

Having said that. I have seen many unfit guys in the gym, who have been “working” for years. I ask them about their routine, and it’s often a floating around, use their phone between sets, comfortable (warmup like) use of gym. Lazy shit, I want to shout at them. Sorry if that’s rude, but it’s the coach in me who wants people to maximise their energy. Every single one of my clients has been happy with me pushing them. If they aren’t then they will get in the way of their own liberation.

4) Precision is key

There’s nothing sexy about wearing your pants on your head, and your hat on your feet. It’s odd, it’s messed up, not in order. It’s the same thing with a workout, with an action, a business plan. In yoga it’s the masterful art of “sequencing”. The sequence is the key, as every move adds to the next. If you do a sun salutation, then randomly do an arm balance, without any build up, it’s a mess. Injury, not as effective flow of energy, time waste I’d say.

Yes. The common thing of “just show up”, “just go to the gym”, “just post online to attract clients” is stupid. There must be an effective plan, a strategy. One that is precise. Masterful actually. Master plans, make masterful results.

5) Drop overthinking though

Now, modern marketers feed off my last point. To give people a “21 day action plan”. Because, we want plans. I even told you, to have a plan!

However, don’t get stuck in this world. And overthink it, sit there planning all day. As Mike Tyson said “a plan is good, until you get punched in the face”.

So plans are good, but action is key. Loads of introverts like me hold back on action, speaking their voice, showing themselves fully. Cos they get lost in the logical brain.

Plans can come from fear, and plans can come from power. Power plan, act, results, adjust. This is what we call Kaizen, and agile development in my world. I was an analyst, project manager, 6 figure consultant, and what I always did, was to tell the business to do it bit by bit, in phases, adjusting along the way.

6) Have fun!!

Life is making love making enjoyable for god sake. For a reason? If the very act of making children is enjoyable, why let anything else be a drag. I am not saying child birth isn’t painful, (I know… I am not a woman!!), however, it’s pain and pleasure isn’t it? Beautiful.

The pleasure, actually is higher, when there’s the flipside of the pain. I find that quite often.

Fun. Joy. As a process of creating, of making our goals happen. Wow, what a blessing. Even the hardships, will be fun, once they are overcome. We LOVE problem solving as humans, not just men, woman too. Creative, simple, solutions. Puzzles. It’s actually why we overthink (ever thought of it that way???). We overthink, cos we are trying to find a solution. So how about that power, that tool, is for us, vs against us. Enjoyable, vs terrible.

7) Start with one tiny action

Finally, write down the one thing you want to improve, get better at, experience, see, learn.

And commit to one TINY action. I got this from a coach I learnt from called Rich Litvin. He said, one TINY, he uses tiny as a word for a reason. To overcome the amagdyla response. This is also proven in therapy sciences, neuroscience too. There’s a therapy type I certified in called ACT. It talks about doing actions which are not going to take us over the edge of our fight flight response, but will stretch us.

This is also described in Flow science by Meeehaichekzymey (I purposely spelt his name wrong, for point number 6 – fun).

8) Decide, go, now

This is your call to be in your body, vs head. My dads a hands on guy. I talk about him a lot, cos I’ve been receiving official coaching sessions with him. (best idea ever). He’s a master when it comes to all things engineering, he did it for 50 odd years. (50!!!). He has a whole garage full of tools.

And the lesson is, using tools, requires action, hands moving, our body, doing stuff. Vs thinking about doing stuff.

What a waste of energy!!! Yes planning, precision, strategy are essential, but without action to learn from, and to be agile and improve the strategy, there is no point.

It’s like getting stood up for a date over and over again. How sad! Ready for nothing. Funnily enough, it’s this kind of feeling that disheartens us.

9) So the real final is this…

Heart up. Open your chest. It’s ok to be scared. I am the king of this. Why do you think I write all of this? In flow as well. Its from lived experience. I have been so afraid… So scared to say things, to do things. Thinking I’d be told off (psychological unconsious program). Feeling unsupported, judged. All that play, drama. Its real, it is the real cause for all the missing dreams, that die, or the unsaid words of love that we regret. The true self we hide… the true reality we miss out on.

I’ve lost chances, people, things. All from the mind that ran a program.

The only thing I can say is. Smile. I’ve got your back, I get it.

And when I say “I”. Really, its the heart of life speaking through me. It speaks to me too.

Life is loving us into the best possible feelings, intuitions, and hugs when we screw things up. Or when we are sad or tired.

Its cool.

Just don’t ignore it. It speaks to tell you something, don’t ignore it. That is the cause of suffering. It’s like ignoring the source itself. Of course it will be mad (why you feel mad, angry).

Listen, and it shall be revealed.

Life reveals itself, after we act on its wishes. Not before.

Confidence, understanding, insight — occurs after, not before.

Love you.

Raj

P.S — If you want support with this, read below.

1) 1-1 coaching — I am looking for 2 types of clients right now. Message me if it speaks to you.

A) Wealthy, successful in career, but unsatisfied. Have everything you need financially, materially, but don’t have the thing you truly want. You know what that is… so do I. I’ve met many of you, and I got what you are looking for. Promise.

B) Wanting to be a leader or changemaker, or already are. E.g a coach, like me, or are starting a business that is innovating humanity. And unsure how to make it happen, price yourself, strategy, brand, offer. And most importantly… you are not highly confident with putting yourself out there. I know. I meet MANY of you guys too. I have a program for you. You’ll be clear, confident and have a plan, actions, and push from me to get it out there.

Two examples of this are —

1) I am currently working with a guy who wishes to leave his corporate job, and is starting an AI company. It’s got huge potential. But he lacks focus and business strategy, that’s why he’s sought me out. I will clear his mental noise.

2) Yesterday I met a guy who values his location freedom like me, is very good with people, and wants to monetize that into a coaching offer. To support them with getting into action (vs worrying about what will happen). He lacks confidence, so I will give him actions to create it.

(Message me if you’d like to consult with me in a similar way)

Here’s what I’ve learnt about relationships.
Not just romantic ones — every relationship.

How you relate to men.
How you relate to women.
How you relate to colleagues, clients, bosses.
How you relate when you feel attraction, discomfort, intimidation, desire.

It’s all one thing.

**The Cluster F*****

One of my coaches once called it the “Cluster F”* — the way we apply one rule to every person we meet, based on how we see all people.

And at the deepest level, that rule comes from how we saw ourselves in relational to parental and other figures we grow up with.

From a psychological point of view, we don’t relate to people as they are.
We relate to them as projections of our minds desires.

Mother: Attraction, Repulsion, and the Mirror

If your mum was distant, harsh, or emotionally unavailable:

• A man may be drawn to strong women…
• …while also being terrified of them.
• A woman may try to become that same strong figure…
• …while repelling women who carry that energy.

It’s hilarious and tragic.

We try to be it.
We’re attracted to it.
We’re repulsed by it.

People say “opposites attract,” but what I’ve found is this:

People who are like me are the most fun to be around.
Because I get them.
They are me.
We are the same.

It’s why I attract clients who:

• had social anxiety
• are highly driven
• move their bodies
• learn fast
• love learning
• are attractive in the sense that people gravitate to them

And at the same time, many potential clients dislike some things I say.

Because I am them. I’m stirring up what I call their “shadow potential”.

Father: Rebellion, Distance, and the Lone Wolf

If your dad was smothering, controlling, or overbearing:

• You may grow up rebellious
• Mistrusting
• Feeling “not enough”
• Terrified of getting things wrong

If he was distant or absent:

• You may develop the “I have to do it alone” identity
• Hyper-independence
• A deep mistrust of support

I coach women who mistrust men… yet trust me.
I coach men who only know how to be aggressive, shut down, or “Robin looking for Batman” — always looking up to other men instead of being their own man.

It’s time to play Batman.
Or Batgirl.

And that starts with breaking the parental spell.

Why This Matters

Transforming your parental psychology changes everything:

• Leadership
• Money
• Sex
• Confidence
• Health
• Relationships
• Your entire experience of life

Meditation frees you from the noise.
But psychosomatic work transforms the program that creates the noise.

That’s what changed me.

Clients who worked with me years ago don’t recognise me now.
One said:

“I can’t believe the power you’re holding now. You’ve gone from calm mystic to direct, clear leader.”

Why?
Because I cleared the illusions I had in my psychological program. And saw the truth, the love, the reality of the situations, vs a projection created by psychological ideas of what is happening. (they are untrue, but become a habit). Love actually clears all ideas what man and woman should be like, or are like.

It shows us beautiful, exciting, joy filled truths of people. Mum, dad, colleagues, they are all shining stars now.

I see the love, the spirit, in everyone. Because that is beyond the psychosomatic. However it did take me clearing the psychosomatic ghosts, seeing the truth.

Awareness, perception shifts. Change everything. And make everything joyfully clear.

So we no longer live out of psychological ideas, and we rather live by loving existential realities. The mind literally transforms, so do the emotions, and the bodily sensations too. They did for me that is for sure.

How You Can Start (Without Hiring Me)

1. Talk to Your Parents

Yes. Literally.

I started interviewing my dad four years ago.
I was awkward.
Avoidant.
Thirty years of not doing this..

In a meditative state, my grandfather appeared — white clothes, light realm — and said:

“Talk to your dad. The answers are there.”

So I did.

I’ve had clients write letters to their parents, call them on the spot, say the things they’ve held in for decades.
I’ve pushed them because I don’t want them dying with those words inside.

Your dad isn’t the leader anymore.
You are. He will cherish it. Even if they are not with you anymore.

2. Do the Deep Inner Work

Let the tears purge.
Let the inner child break down.
Let the pain move.

I kept men at a distance because of how I saw myself, the childhood pattern of needing to shut myself down around others.
Ayahuasca showed me the truth:

I had disassociated with my father, and my own male wisdom, and replaced it with an angry voice inside me. The beating oneself up, the making myself small.
This became the “male figure” in my psyche.

No wonder I resisted strong men. It was because I rejected my own strong man.

With women, it was the same.

My mum and sisters were warriors — strong and outspoken.
So my projection of it was that they were critical of me. I missed the warmth factor. (despite the fact that they are warm, I simply didn’t see it via my projection)
So I found it difficult to be around strong women.
I felt intimidated, afraid of making mistakes, and being judged.
I found it difficult to lead.

Somatic work, traditional leadership training, and chakra opening rituals— they awakened the raw male energy in me again.

The embodied animal
The loving leader.
The clear headed thinker.

The man with a trident of life within him.
The man who can guide others.
The man who can kill if he had to.
Not that I will — but the energy potency is what it represents.

The Three Questions That Changed Everything

These questions came to me directly during meditative exercises that i do that include breath holding.

1. Am I going to die?
The primal body. The animal. The protector.

2. Am I love?
The mammalian heart. Connection. Lifeforce.

3. Who am I?
The intelligence. The observer. The unmoving truth.

These are representations of voices, parts inside of us. And transforming how they operate, unlock a power within us.

When you operate from all three planes — body, heart, intelligence — you become whole.

Relationships become simple.
Life becomes potent.
Presence becomes your default.

However, the key is that these powers don’t turn against you. Don’t become protective, grasping, fear operating. Instead, they are divine lights. Helping us. Vs hindering.

Beyond Psychology: Becoming Whole

To unlock the power of these planes — mind, energy, body — is elevating in every part of life.

I began to see I could operate from all three to reach my fullest power.

Not restricted by the mind and what I collected from the past.
But unlocking who I truly am.

That makes relationships clearer, simpler, more potent.

I had to understand, see, and transform the stories of male, female, mother, father, and the “Cluster F***.”

And start approaching situations with absolute presence.

Everyone’s different, yes.
But we’re all made of the same stuff.
Same potentials.
Same challenges.
Different stories.

If I help a client change how they relate to people as a whole, male, female, hierarchy figures, career roles, identity within themselves really, their entire life transforms.

The Linchpin

When you transform how you relate to “people as a whole,” you will relate to every singular person with more freedom and power, and connection.

This is the linchpin.
Pull it, and the whole dress falls apart instantly.
No more untangling cords for years.

That’s what I help people do.

Not because they can’t do it alone.
But because I’ve become a highly skilled plumber in this realm. You see a plumber may charge you an amount, but only cos they are the one’s who know how to do it.

Like hiring a violinist to play at a wedding. You can do it yourself, but the violinist knows how to do it.

I bring:

• The heart transformation
• The unlocking of the primal energy
• The freeing arrival of “Who am I?”

And I challenge people to do what they’d never do alone. Get practical, vs theory and collect knowledge. They see results like looking in the mirror does. But from the relational mirror.

My Own Practice

My dad and I now speak monthly for 90 minutes — formal mentoring.
I’ll be doing the same with my mum soon.

I speak to a couple of male coaches I trust.
I’m looking for a female coach again. (I had one for a while and she really helped me)
I’m going to hire an assistant this year.

Because support is power.
And I love being that support for others.

The Real Work

Most people I work with are:

• Fit
• Meditative
• Intelligent
• Driven

You know why?
Because those things don’t involve other people.

But when it comes to relationships —
When it comes to being seen —
They are challenged.

The whole strong facade is gone when it’s with others.

It was the same for me.

Relational mastery is the crem de la crem.
And the liberation. And the thing that will transform every area of life.

Even the body, the body will let go of tensing, holding, and look healthier.

And decisions? Fearless ones will happen, because there is less fear of others, which is why we often overthink.

Transform the Cluster F*** rule, and every relationship transforms with it.

If This Sparked Something

Write to me.
Tell me what came up..

Send me your insights, courageously, and let me know if this is an area you’d like to improve for 2026.

I will show you a model and approach to take. I’ve done this with many leaders, parents, and people in an transition phase of some sort.

Speak soon,
Raj

Unless you like your bed hard or soft, that is.

For over a year, I slept on the floor. Hard wooden floor.

It worked wonders for my back, for my energy.
However, I stopped when I went travelling.

A few things stopped when I went travelling, and routine was broken.

But then, I worked to find my goldilocks energy zone again — by going to a gym in any location I was.
Finding the spinach and hunting it down like Popeye with a cocaine addiction.

Some addictions are good, if they are:

1. Creating lifeforce energy
2. Cleaning dirty/stuck energy, like a dish that is dirty (it’s why we shower — we need cleaning too)
3. Creating stability in the mind, which doesn’t like too much instability

I have been doing yoga every day, in some form or another, for the past 10 years now.

It’s my stability.
It’s my goldilocks energy creator.

Sometimes fiery, sometimes tantrik, sometimes different.

I know what I need now, like a chemist with the drug doses, to ease the body.

In the end, we are this — we are chemicals, and we are chemists.

We can find that goldilocks energy zone, that balance.

Which in yoga, we call Sama-DHI.

This mystical state is often chased by spiritualists, finding gurus, calling people like me guru.

In the end, a true guru will show the person how to experience something, not theorise on it.

We can all desire to be balanced, harmonious, blissful, wealthy, have mind-blowing relationships, have confidence with our voices.

But it never, ever comes from beating ourselves up, or learning theory.

And it doesn’t come from the typical personal development angle of “YOU MUST PRACTICE.”

Tell an anxious, annoyed, tired, or upset person to be their best by just telling them theory, or telling them to “JUST DO IT.”

This is stupid coaches in my head.
Stupid, plain, uneducated, lacking mastery.
Who spit theory, or say just do it.

The missing link is… drum roll…

Lifeforce.

Because lifeforce is like drugs.
It’s the literal feeling of life.

I have tried matcha teas, plant medicine, sexual experiences, alcohols, thrill-seeking, riding bikes as fast as I can, earning money.

None of it comes close to the feeling lifeforce gives.

But…

Only…

When it’s in a state of union with absolute observation.

This is what we call Sat‑Chit‑Ananda.

Total unification of presence, clarity, high energy, high presence.
Full power. High voltage.

It’s the goldilocks zone.

Ok, maybe theory now.

So let’s get into how you experience it.

You may be experiencing it by reading this — this is what working with me 1‑1 is like.
I say things to someone so directly, so intuitively, that it gives them the experience.

Sometimes, I give them assignments, so they can experience it.

Most of the time… I see where they are off in energy.

The bed is too hard, or too soft.

The energy is too introspective, or too go‑go‑go‑go‑go.

The chasing of the high, or the attachment to the low.

High lifeforce is great. It’s ecstasy.

However, high lifeforce + highest awareness, intermingling into a soup of whirling heart, dancing, speaking, power, confidence, absolute clarity…

Is what athletes call “in the zone.”

It’s why yogis stop caring about anything and sit in the mountains.

It’s why a couple can have total chemistry and nothing else matters — no “are they like me, do we have similar interests.”

None of this matters.
This logical way to find a partner, to choose a job, to choose a path…

All of that is mind stuff.
Noise.

The lifeforce mixed with intuitive awareness tells you what to do, what is true, what is blue and what is glue.

Glue is sticky and messy.
Glued to the bed, unable to move.

Glue can also be useful when you want to stick things together.

So the problem isn’t the glue — it’s the way you unify with it.

Consciously or unconsciously.
Stuck, or sticking things together.

Two different concepts, right?

Now, I confuse people with my writing a lot of the time.

Mind hates that.

But then the weaver comes.

Like the rage before the calm.

The weaver is this:

Do whatever you’ve got to do to master your state of operating.

To slow it down, but not be a sloth.

To fire it up, but not be an erratic mess — emotionally reacting to everyone, then acting like it’s “me.”

Unified is the state that trumps all.

And here’s the message — the one I want you to walk away with.

Your life is not asking you to be perfect.
It’s asking you to find your goldilocks zone — your personal recipe of lifeforce + awareness.

Not too soft.
Not too hard.
Not too slow.
Not too fast.

Just right.

Just you.

Just alive.

And the moment you learn to tune your energy — like a chemist, like a yogi, like an athlete in the zone — everything becomes simpler:

Your relationships.
Your decisions.
Your confidence.
Your clarity.
Your purpose.
Your peace.

Because you’re no longer living from mind.

You’re living from the very scientific nature of life.

Which is unified. And nature never lies.

One action you can take to embody this.

Is to simply not eat until you are very hungry, eat clean foods, enjoy the pleasure of the food, the texture.

And then do one thing, do not attach to it either. Witness, feeling.

Witness yourself, as a lifeforce, consuming lifeforce, in an earth of lifeforce, surrounded by other lifeforces, elemental lifeforces, and organs inside that help to digest that lifeforce.

Now do this with everything else, not just food. And see what happens.

Have fun

Raj

rajeshgorsia.com

They’ve helped me to:

• Maintain less than 12% body fat for the past 5 years.
• Enter into states of bliss you only read about in yogic tales.
• Create books, work 3 jobs, manage my health, sustain an extensive yogic practice, travel the world, and coach people — all at once.
• Look better now than I did 10 years ago (anti-aging in action).
• Drop cravings and habits: no salt, no sugar, no unhelpful sexual habits, no Netflix binges, no alcohol, drugs, or anger explosions. I now thrive on less than 6 hours of sleep a day.

1) Smoothie, Daily

Greens, fruits, herbal powders, natural protein powders, seeds. I have a recipe if you want it — hundreds of people ask me.

I’ve blended my smoothie in hotel lobbies, carried a blender with me anywhere I travel. It’s always met with praise: “WOW, you are committed.” They see my body and ask for tips.

Be that. Be the wow factor. Don’t be the person asking for tips — be it. I was once the skinny guy laughed at in the gym. Now I’m the guy cheering on the skinny guys.

2) Meditate, Daily, With Preparation

Don’t just sit there with your sloth body. Prepare first. This is how my fathers in India — the most intelligent scientists there will ever be — trained it. A systematic path: prepare the body with movements and breath practice, then meditate.

Watch how high, free, alive, sexy you feel.

3) Cry, Poo, Release

Our bodies are purging machines. Food cleans you. Crying cleans you.

I held things in for my entire life — tense, alone, scared, like a shivering deer in the wild. Fight or flight. Cry, sigh, release. Poo if you need. Let it all out.

We are human, not mechanical. Even the bros need this more than anyone. Relax more, and you will feel better.

4) Laugh, Socialise, Guard Against Idiots

Recently I was disturbed by this “bro”. I was trying to chat to a girl privately, and he comes in with nonsense, ego games, interrupting. Proving. 

I get it — gorillas in the wild. Me getting gorilla‑like too. But I won’t take nonsense from nobody. My dad taught me better. Show assertiveness. Show our fellow humans how to treat us, vs bend to their treatment.

And apart from that… laugh, enjoy, spend good heart energy with those you love. Open your heart fully. It’s free drugs. We are mammals, we are meant to connect. I spent years alone, and now I see how much I value alone + not alone. My life feels fuller as a result of getting out there and approaching people to talk.

5) Don’t Take Stupid Vitamin Pills

I get pushback on this all the time. Sure, if you’re deficient, take it. But do you really think some pill from a factory will give you real energy?

Real vitamins come from nature’s colors — greens, oranges, reds. Our eyes are designed to seek them. They nourish, they satisfy. Pills only made me anxious. Food makes me happy.

6) Don’t Masturbate

I have to be direct. That’s the Raj I am these days.

I used to watch a lot of porn. Thought it was only men. But women I’ve coached told me about their habits too. Transforming this gave them freedom.

When I cut it, I got so much more energy. It’s another drug. Man made. See the theme?

7) Don’t Hold Back Either

The opposite can occur. Church nun, fake temple guy — secretly suppressed, brainwashing others.

What we hold back, if not transformed, comes out in weird ways. I know for sure — it nearly happened to me many times. Meditation helped me channel it.

The rule: whatever comes from your true heart, the spirit — crying, romance, art, surrender — act on it. That’s spiritual development. Action vs holding back, hiding the voice, the expression. Act, not just alone, but with others around. Social is the cause of many problems, as it was for me. Break the social limit on your potential.

The key is heart.

8) Don’t Drink So Much Water (Like They Say)

They say drink X litres a day. But if you do the fruit smoothie, you’ll be pissing so much your belly is full of fluid. Nourishing meals cover hydration.

I never carry a water bottle now, unless it’s first thing in the morning, fasted, or during intense workouts. It’s often a habit that has become required because of poor diet, poor regulation of temperature and hydration. It’s better to work on this, as a skill, as an improvement, than chugging water all day.

9) Crack Open Things Deep Down

We all have shadows, hurt, pain. This isn’t about joining some “broken healing academy.”

It’s about acknowledging the inner child — the golden part. The one who laughs, jumps, dances. We suppress it so deep it turns into sorrow.

Cracking it open is liberation. Freedom. It opens the best parts of you. Not hurt, not pain, but the BEST. Shadow potential transforms shadow into light.

I have a meditation to help with this.

10) Push yourself

Working out, work til your body and mind are saying no, and then go beyond that. Not until you kill yourself, do it with form, with precision, with technical ability, alignment. But push.

If there’s one thing i’ve learnt from Indian yogis, is that the push is key for any results to occur. Comfort is simply a warmup. I knew this in the gym, i knew this with meditation, i knew this with starting to share my work publicly.

There’s a resistant point where spiritual folk will say “i need healing or alignment first”. Sometimes you simply need to go beyond the edge. It’s how I am getting flexible, physically, and mentally. Push is key. And consistency, is even more important. Showing up, constantly, over time… with masterful, precise, technical execution… means results. In any field.

11) Take It Easy

Finally, a lesson from my dad. Big Guru Prem. He doesn’t do healing work, reading, or anything. But he’s wise as F.

It took me 35 years to crack his treasure, by sitting formally, asking him professional questions. He always says: “Stop rushing.” Tattooed in my head. He also says: “Let your brain rest, don’t overwork it.”

Work hard, yes. But don’t burn the brain. Move the body — it can handle it. The brain is like a sponge. It needs water poured over it to be soft, wet, relaxed. Then it works best.

Take it easy. Yin yoga is my favorite. Stretch. Slow down. Even 3 minutes is enough.

Closing

And exactly as I say that — it’s time for me to stop.

I’ve got more things to do, more life to enjoy. Time to stop.

It’s like when I wrote my new book Who’s Driving This Car. I wrote every day for 3 months, but with a word limit. Clock in, clock out. And then things get made.

I hope these 10 help you. I’ll share more when inspiration strikes. Life is giving us life. It’s all in us. We simply must listen, act, do — not think.

Thinking is the cause of suffering. Unless thinking is clear, embodied, peaceful, brain‑wet vs brain‑dry.

Rajesh Bharat P.V.K
I’m with you.

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Namaste. 

I have so much i want to share with you. Like two girlfriends who sit there giggling together in a room. So much care and trust for one another. No judgement, no shame, so much safety.

I have become extremely aware of how social psychology can ruin connection between people.  

They said as a yogi, you will develop Siddhis, powers. 

They never said, these powers would hurt.

I cannot operate in the psychological realm anymore.

It’s what in my first ever coach training, we call, transactional analysis, transference.

When one plays a role of adult, other plays child. Or vice versa. Approval seeking, proving. Grandioise, or totally checked out and the true voice hidden.

This usually comes from either seeing someone as wiser, or better than you. Or seeing them as less than.

There is this bias. Coming usually from how we have seen our parents in relation to us.

Yes, its all a projection. An attempt to survive. 

It’s not living.

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Living is when we are with people and we are loving who they are. We do not feel threatened, we do not judge, we do not belittle them.

Older sister to younger brother. Brother plays the kid. That’s been me.

Older sister plays the mum. I’ve nipped that in the bud with my sisters. Shouted at them kindly, snapped them out of the hypnosis they are in.

Playing a role. 

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We need not roles.

Even if you’ve played the role of someone your whole life. Quiet one, loud one. Carer of others. Shy one. Unconfident one. Very confident one.

There’s always room for something new.

Whatever is not serving you. Whatever keeps resulting in lonely, frustrated, confused. Its coming from you, not anyone else.

Its your role, rubbing off on them, and then they play their role

We can argue, as i did about my sisters, to tell them to stop.

However, the thing i’ve seen work best, is when i stop the role.

I drop it. I don’t play it, so it dies itself.

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This is what i call leadership.

This may all seem a little complex, but its simply leadership.

I’ve coached 100s of leaders.

And the biggest thing they want help with is how they are with others.

How to lead higher performance, better influencing, more engagement, happier teams.

Well, see how you can conciously use a role

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Wait, i thought you said drop the role raj?

I said drop the unconscious role, the psychological one.

Wear the role if it serves the heart

My clients have written endless amounts about how i played the role for them, how supportive it was.

Its because i have been very conscious, of how i can be helpful to them, by how i speak, what i do, what i say. Every part of it, has been consciously chosen.

Like a magician. All magicians are wildly engaging, for a reason. They know how to make people happy.

You never leave a magician angry do you? wanting to beat them up, fighting.

Yet unfortunately, a lot of leadership, corporate teams, families, friendships, and any engagement, is left with this fight.

Why?

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Well, the role is coming from psychological reactions, masks, hiding, protection, fear, being political, formal.

Its dead.

Its boring. 

I’ve stunned some clients before, because they don’t know why the F i said or did this. Unexpected.

Yet their heart signed an agreement with me from the beginning, to let it all be a part of their process.

Leadership. 

Is loving others, without the role of psychological power

But with the role, a natural one, a primal one, a family like one, a tribe around a fire kinda one, a “I will kill for you” one.

This is grabbing a sword, and saying. I am with you. Let’s go out there.

And at the same time, never undermining the possibility that someone has. Letting them use their own sword.  

Imagine our relationships were this, without any psychological drama.

Quietly supportive. 

Without fear driving it. Without any doctrines we took from a conditioned world. 
There is nobody who needs you to butt in, save them, from your own fear, or ego driving it.

We don’t like recieving that do we? Its like a creepy sales man. Coming in, pushy. Butting into our nice stroll through a shiny set of cars, having fun. Until they come in and start breathing our air.

Get out of the way.

Whilst being there, serving

That’s the best kind of sales person.

Here, really caring. Not worried about their own sale. Their own bacon.

But really, wanting you to have a great experience on this parking lot

Imagine that is the world we live in, where everyones parking lot we call life, is like that, around each other. Roaming around, like deer, majestically eating, and relating. 

This isn’t a jungle.

Even lions don’t fight as often as you think.

Most of the time they are laying down peacefully.

We luckily, are fed. Yet we bark at others when a slight bit of ego gets hurt. 

I will stop there. As its time to go to yoga. 

Yoga means unity, being together. Lifting fire in ourselves, others. that’s what we are born to be.

I hope this article gives you some of that today.

Raj

I have three sisters. The people I’ve worked with deeply—CEOs, single mums, spirit-driven healthcare professionals, coaches, women leading businesses, women rebuilding after divorce, women birthing babies, women carrying huge responsibility—have been inspiring. I’ve traveled the world and learnt from women of many races and culture: Latinos, Chinese, English, Japanese. I’ve been seen, judged, loved, hurt, healed, and taught by them.

I’ve held space as both the feminine and the healthy masculine in their lives. I’ve helped mend spiritual wounds left by the abusive and dominating energy that the world’s version of masculinity has inflicted on them. I’ve shown edges, brought discomfort, held firm—and through that work, watched layers burn off. They’ve seen me as “healthy masculine” when I challenged them, and refreshing when I listened them. I’ve helped them step out of the “good, obedient, perfect” mold and into fire. I haven’t helped them to become like men—I’ve sent them into their own power as women. Divine creators. Golden rays of generative power. The ones whose presence, elegance, and raw magnetism shift everything around them.

Some already lead—more powerfully than many men I’ve met. Some are ready to lean in, to take up more space, and I help bring that out relentlessly.

Why I love it

Because of the wounds. Mine, theirs, the collective. Because of the hurt I’ve watched, the pain I’ve carried, and the healing I’ve been bound to. I received a transmission from a woman who was once my teacher—oracle, healer—who planted in me something unshakeable: my role as a man is to take a stand for women, not to be a part of the suppression and harm that mother nature has felt.

After she left my life, I had visions. I saw myself walking into a fire off a dark volcano in the sky, and behind me were thousands of dead-faced bodies—women—whom I was leading into the molten core. We jumped off and burned, not in pain, but in liberation: layers melting away. On the other side, we emerged into still water on a peaceful blue-hued beach under moonlight. That vision was the purge of samskaras—the poison, pressure, beliefs, limitations built through the generations.

Women can sense that. Even when they don’t have words for it. That deep intuition, the built-in guard that says, “Something is off,” when certain energies are near. Some sneaky ghouls bypass it—but it’s still there. Another vision in Mexico, from a shaman woman, showed me female abuse and killing, and how a man can be part of the undoing of that. I understood then: freeing women isn’t optional. It’s destiny. It’s why women keep reaching out saying, “I don’t know why, but I feel called to your work.”

The effect? Free, fiery, feminine power. The shedding of toxic male templates. The anger—not blind rage, but the righteous frustration of carrying a role that’s been worn like a burdensome bag while the world still needs protectors, care, growth. Women are Mother Nature; they know what’s wrong and what can be better. I’ve watched them start movements, businesses, become inspirational to others, and most importantly: become confident enough in themselves to speak their voice without compromise.

Many women dim that voice. I see what’s in them so clearly that I tell them: what you want, what you’re capable of —it’s not as difficult as you think. I can see it. The power is already there; you just need the firestarter, the mirror, and the container to embody it. That’s why they invest—because they want to release the money into reality and get the results they wish for. I love to guide them through that process.

But I can’t liberate woman alone. I can’t be in every boardroom, every situation, every space. Women can carry this ripple further and deeper than I ever could by myself. That’s why I love the ripple effect. To hear the stories—“Raj, after our session, this happened…”—and to meet them with the presence of both care and accountability, like a mother and a father: not for ego, but because I genuinely love seeing their life expand.

They get the body, the lifeforce, the leadership, the alignment, the removal of male sting—because I’ve shown them how to implement what I call “The Unified Model”. They accomplish beyond expectation, I’m inspired every time. Grateful that I get to witness this.

Funny thing: the men I work with often have ego in the way. They hesitate. Only the ones who are clear, who see the value, who invest like it’s healthcare for their family, move. Women—purpose-driven, hungry for life, empowerment, clarity, and the best version of themselves—tend to be more open. They feel, they sense, they put in the work harder than many men I’ve seen. Perhaps its the yin-yang dynamic between us, healthy leadership, directing them to action. It simply works.

I love working with women because they care about others, really care. They have a mission which is bigger than just money or meaningless goals. Its driven by realness. Not ego-driven, but impact-driven. I will help them to unleash more of their fairness and their fierceness, the surrender and the bite, and they move. They really move.

I’ve seen women prosper financially from nothing—they got the openness and work ethic to take direction and to run with it. Hard workers, like the old women I met in Peru hustling on street corners, dazzling me with their resilience, independent, care in what they do. My mother was like that—hardworking, serving fiercely out of love, and wouldn’t take crap from nobody either. She amazes me, and so does my father. That example lives in me. And I attract those woman, the ones who can surrender and lead, who even resisted reaching out because of fear (yes, I know some of you feel that tension reading this—desire meets caution because I’m a man), still end up saying later, “I wish I’d done it sooner.”

If you feel that pull—if something in this email landed like a truth whispering in your bones—that’s your powerful feminine intuition speaking. Don’t let the fear voice drown it out. Listen to your truth, not the noise. The noise which isn’t even your own.

Contact me.
This isn’t your generic “book a call” line. This is me saying: if this is you—purpose-driven, done playing small, ready to build, let go of old patterns, lead, and create a life you love—reach out. Let’s see if we’re the right fit. Maybe I will be writing about you next: not just as a success story, but as an inspiration story.

If we’ve worked together before—even briefly, if you invested in my work to support this ripple—thank you. You helped me keep showing up. You helped more humans rise. Out of the head and into the power of mother nature. Through me, and through you. I see you. I commend you.

For those who haven’t yet—welcome. It’s your turn. DM me.

With gratitude and fire,
Raj

The active form of shakti is spirit moving. It’s powerful, it’s the nature is getting made, volcanos popping off, thoughts appearing, ideas generating, bodies functioning. It’s active, it’s moving

So creating is just spirit in action, vs mind in action

Mind in action is psychologically led, its fear led, its fear based actions, its calculated, smart.

It isn’t feeling good, it never has for me. Has it for you?

However, spirit in action, is intuitive, it’s the fire that moves, it’s relentless

It’s the sports player going for it. Moving, hitting the shots that count, potently, majestically.

It’s the dancer being in perfect sync with their bodies, being taken over, in the zone.

There is no way they can do that with calculation with head. We cannot make babies when we are in our head right? It works the same way for everything else.

So this tells me, spirit is the only way. Lifeforce, shakti, aliveness.

So my mission is to get people out of head actions, and into lifeforce actions

Cos spirit is lifeforce. It’s the perfectly optimised flow of this lifeforce, from inside (work on body fuel, emotional blocks, and any other blocks to flow) to outside, how the flow comes out, what we do with it.

The best fuel of a car is one which moves through clean pipes, and has optimised fuel technology.

And… And…. a clear driver, the best driver, the spirit driver, not the mind driver

So lifeforce is one thing, but who drives it, that’s the most powerful

Lifeforce with fear driven thoughts = fear actions, fear life

Lifeforce with spirit driven thoughts = greatest actions, creative life.

This is the key

So there is no need to just go inside and stay there, with spirit

The outside actions must also be a reflection of spirit.

The life must be.

This is a full expression of spirit. It’s when its all aligned.

This came to me as i was working on the shiva day of the week, and the 2nd power centre.

Realising, nothing is more enjoyable for me (2nd centre), than letting out spirit driven actions

And nothing is more horrible and tense (the opposite), than letting out mind driven actions

Those thoughts, they must be switched, driver switched. From fear, to freedom…. driving the car

That is my only mission, to make this switch for people

Cos then, it all changes.

And then i help them with actions, as a result of clear thinking

Different actions, because of different mode of thinking.

First though, we got to change drivers, we got to be operating out of lifeforce, spirit in action as a thinking process, a strategic shift, and then spirit in action as an active process.

Doing the things that express the spirit outwardly. There’s nothing more fulfilling than that. Farming fruit that is as tasty as can be, because it contains no impure additives to it.

Hallelujah.

Raj “Writing from the spirit” Gorsia

P.s – If you experience challenges around this topic, write to me immediately. Do not hesitate on the action, in the spirit of this article. I will show you what to do next. It takes willingness, that’s all, the rest will come.